Hi KFDC! I know y'all miss me, but I finally have the time to chime in on a good topic
I need to correct James on one thing, this was Cathy's 2nd PDGA event- he should know as he DID caddy for her at the WOW tournament.
Rest assured folks, this tough lady is my sidekick on the Tempest DG Women of KS project, and I am her Jedi Master of all things disc golf with Tallguy's support. You Divas that came to the WOW last year told me you had the best time & it was the most fun tournament EVER!!! Thanks again for being such great ladies!!! You showed this T.D. what she CAN do, and helped me set the bar real high for my next event.
My sidekick and I are actively addressing these kinds of issues by writing a mission statement & values that support my favorite phrase "if you're not having fun, you're not doing it right" & another fun 1 I've developed in the last few weeks of brainstorming "good times mandatory, competition optional".
It was with my preaching of peace, love & disc golf (& Tallguy's support) that Cathy was able to approach this tournament with confidence, knowing that if all else fails, she WILL have a good time! I can tell you she was worried, but after our super fun practice rounds & putting ideas of fabulous disc golfin in her head- that girl was ready to go! I admire her sticking to her guns and trying to have a good time despite the harsh conditions and the treatment of other players. I was thrown off completely by her text message after the tournament, but I offered words of encouragement and complimented her on choosing to be nice & not let them bring her down.
I am pleased to verify that the KC Divas & any lady that I've had the pleasure to play with around Kansas are fabulous, fun women! We always encourage each other, are patient and kind, and explain the rules, as gently as possible when we need to. Some of you know that I got to go to my 1st Pro World Championships in 2011 in California- so fun! But also a real eye opener to the fact that even in the open divisions, professional courtesies are often bypassed, violated and ignored. The only way us fantabulous women can fight back is to kill em with kindness
I even got a few complements from other Pro ladies there that us Kansas folk are super nice! So don't let em get to you EVER! It helps to know the rules and when to enforce them. As a PDGA Official, I've invited Cathy to take the test (as she will have to eventually anyway, to be my co-TD). She has agreed, and this will make her more familiar with the rules.
I admire the T.D. & have never questioned DD's integrity as a quality, professional disc golf company, and I am super supportive of his/their intentions to address proper dg etiquette! I too, along with my sidekick, will be adamantly suggesting a drama-free, supportive atmosphere for every event that we host.
I can't do any Texas bashing though. I've played there twice now, and although both experiences were rough for me, it was never due to being mis-treated by another player. (I'm just a bit broken in the shoulder area & it's brought my game down a notch, no biggie) I have, of course, had some dramatic, unnecessary experiences on my way to being a Pro player. And while it was unfortunate they happened, I learned from it and am a better disc golfer because of it. After 15 years in the game, growing as the lone lady player for the 1st half of it, then confronting the issues that came with playing with other ladies since, and getting through a shoulder injury- I have a greater appreciation for why I started playing this game in the 1st place- to have FUN, soak up the sun & grow the sport! I encourage you all to practice these things. & if you or anyone you know ever needs an inspirational disc golf speech- I have just the perfect thing!
This was sent to me by Scooba Steve Stuber, right before I left for Cali Worlds:
"Zone in, focus- pressure is the enemy! The course is your true competition, not the other players. When in doubt, lay up- be confident. You've drove, approached & putted a million times! Keep telling yourself that... Reset your mind every hole, every shot. If needed go back to the basics. Most important, find your happy place & have fun!"
Cheers, peace love & disc golf! Miss you KC, but I'll be there in MAY!!! & I'm bringing my sidekick with me